You know, I’ve always wondered why couples fight… well I used to. Back when I was still innocent and had no experience of romantic love, when I hear of a lover’s quarrel, I used to laugh it off or roll my eyes at it. I was one of those girls who wasn’t looking for love but wanted to wait for that one true love, hoping that her first would be her last. And I would never imagine having a fight with him for such little things. Because for me, being in a relationship was just like having a best friend…who is a guy; someone whom you can trust, tell your secrets to, share your happiness and sadness with… etc.
When my first love came, I slowly understood. Being in a relationship is not simply like just having a best friend who is a guy. What I didn’t know was that falling in love can make you crazy sometimes, especially when he’s your first. Your world suddenly revolves around him and you go so crazy for him that you always want to know what he is doing, how he is and you just want to be together with him—always. You think about him a lot and you always miss him a lot that when he doesn’t reply directly to your text message, it hurts—a lot. Because you can’t stop thinking about him and you kept on glancing on your phone waiting for that name to appear. And then it starts… you get mad and then he argues and then it turns into a fight on something that I used to laugh off for thinking they were just little things.
And then this another new kind of feeling comes… The kind that you feel whenever he’s with another girl… The kind what people call “jealousy”. You suddenly find yourself searching for more information you can get about this girl. You get insecure and you just want her out of your boyfriend’s life. You talk about it with him but when you let these emotions dominate, it turns into a huge fight.
But you know what I also realized? The most important thing is that you still choose to be together despite the countless lovers’ quarrel you had. You still continue to show your love and make an effort in making the other happy. You try to work things out and understand each other more. This goes for both sides.
My brother pointed out something that I hadn’t notice before and titled my artwork, “right-foot sadness”. Hahaha! My Dad reasoned out for me and told him that ‘it’s a fairy and not a human’. Way to go papa for the support!
First Fun Run!
Hoorah for my first fun run! And yes, it was definitely fun! Very energizing, and I would love to go for more. A big thanks to my Dad for running with me despite having a sprained ankle. =)
A professor in Philosophy posted this and I think It’s worth sharing:
WHAT IS A MAN? What is a boy?
A boy comes home hurt because he was not loved;
A man comes home happy because he “affirmed” and said he loved her and loved her still even if she said no.
A boy comes home hurt because he lost money spent for her food on a date;
A man comes home happy because he “shared” a meal with her and laughed or cried as stories unfold while they dine.
A boy comes home happy because he won in a fight;
A man comes come happy because he lost an argument but he won her heart.
A boy comes home proud because of what he owns;
A man comes home joyful because of what he gave away so that others may have a better life.
This is also true for girls and women?